When it comes to describing the people in my life I find that certain adjectives fit them better
than others since, I tend to follow the old adage” Never judge a book by its cover.” Personal
constructs tend to deal with the outward characteristics of a person. By taking a step back and
observing the person before passing judgment it helps to figure out what personal constructs
really fit the person in front of you.
For the first part of the assignment I chose from the list a family member and a teacher.
In my opinion I would describe the similarities of these two as caring, crafty, levelheaded,
understanding, resourceful, reliable, trustworthy, mindful, and well read. Where they differ is
ever so slight since, I grew up under the watchful eye of one and worked with and observed the
other for several years. One is organized, overworked, scholarly, thoughtful, strict, multitasked,
baker, grandmother, tired and a bit short tempered.
Group two were a female friend and a person that I socialized/worked with. This was a hard
one since, I tend to not be much of a social person and keep to myself. The adjectives for this
group were organized, knowledgeable, friendly, judgmental, and resourceful. Besides the basic
gender difference these two have their own personal differences in that one experiments in
baking, the other sticks to what they know works, one attends church more than the other, my
social friend likes the outdoors, and the other plays games on the computer.
Finally, for the last part of the assignment I was to look at myself and one other person. The
other person I chose was a male friend. The similarities that we share were that we are both
kindhearted, creative, family members, knowledgeable, and short tempered. I found that we
differ ever so slightly in that he likes strategy games, is outgoing, talkative, a hands-on-learner,
and a of course that he is a father of three boys. Myself, I a tend to stay away from strategy
games, shy, a visual learner, a mother of three consisting of two girls and one boy, and a bit
timid when it comes to new people.
Looking back on the list of adjectives I would have to say that I do have a bit of a stable
set of constructs when it comes to judging people, no matter who I am asked to judge. At first
I would when it comes to stereotyping I would have to say it does tend to enter my judgment
process until I get to know the person better, by taking a step back and observing their habits
and how they interact with others around them in a social climate. I would not say that I judged
myself more or less favorably than I did for the others. As stated above I look for what is on the
inside more than on the outside of a person, since to me personally, outward appearances can be
inaccurate in figuring out just who or what the person is going to be like. The constructs that I
choose for each set of people really does not affect the way I communicate with others, it is the
environment, or setting of the conversation that I feel affects it. For instance, when I am speaking
with my female friend it usually is in her home with a younger child running around making
noise so, we tend to have to speak up in order for the two of us to hear what the other is talking
about, and there is no miscommunication. The same could be said for several of the other people
I picked since, most of my conversations take place in or around the work place of that other
People can be encouraged to develop a rich and complex set of personal constructs by not just
observing the person or group of people, but by not jumping to the conclusion that this person
is for example a drug user, just because they have track marks in their arms. By being more
observant of what is going on with the people around you the conclusions of the person can be
changed from one of inaccurate and unfair, to one of understanding and correct.
After doing this assignment I personally found that, I tend to befriend people who are well
organized, crafty in some way be it in baking, hobbies, or cooking. That some of my friends
may have a short temper that depending on the conversation I try to shy away from an argument
or fight, due to the kindheartedness and caring people that I surround myself with. It is not just
these personal constructs that I look for in a person, but how they use them on the outside that
makes them a friend and a person that I will not just socialize with, but will work with to keep
our friendships going no matter what the difference is in our relationship.