How are your identity and social views defined, sustained, and reinforced by the cultures within which you immerse your life?

Interpersonal Communications

Merima Skrebo

Kaplan University


Unit 3 Seminar:

How are your identity and social views defined, sustained, and reinforced by the cultures within which you immerse your life?  I think that my identity and social views are defined because I involve myself deeply into the Muslim religion and I will do anything for Allah and sometimes people will think I am weird and I do too much because nowadays people aren’t as religious as they use to be but I come from a Muslim home and I follow every rule and yes I am covered from head to toe the only thing you can see of me is my eyes and my hands. I believe that I get defined every day but that something I am deeply involved with.

What is a strong value, belief, or attitude you have that you learned from your family while growing up? All I learned growing up was how to be a good Muslim, a good wife once I get married and how to treat my husband and what to do to make him happy. Marriage in Islam offers tranquility to the soul and peace to the mind, so that man and woman may live together in an atmosphere of love, mercy, harmony, co-operation, mutual advice and tolerance, and lay the foundation for raising a Muslim family in a nurturing, sound environment. The Holy Qur’an has described, in the most moving and eloquent terms, this eternal, natural relationship between man and woman, which is filled with tranquility, security, love, understanding and compassion: [And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your [hearts]: verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.] (Qur’an 30:21)

Marriage is a union of souls, in the deepest sense. Allah (S.W.T.) joins these two souls together so that they may enjoy tranquility and stability in a marital home filled with sincere love and compassionate mercy. In Islam, the righteous woman is viewed as one of the joys of this life, and a great blessing to a man, for he comes home to her and relaxes after facing the struggles of life, and finds with her incomparable peace, comfort and pleasure. The Prophet (S.A.W.) spoke only the truth said: “This world is just temporary conveniences, and the best comfort in this word is a righteous woman.” (Muslim) Islam regards marriage very highly, and views femininity as something to be valued and cherished.

What are some general world views that you hold? Where did you learn them? Some general world views I hold is that Allah is absolutely one and indivisible, without equal, without associates, without “persons”. Love and fellowship are not important attributes of Allah. Christians are said to worship three gods: Allah, Jesus, and Mary. I learned this from my parents and from reading books and from reading the Quran and that a general world view I hold about Allah.

What do you remember being told as a child that still influences your behavior today in a negative way? In a positive way?  As a child I would always get told to go the mosque as much as I can to learn how to pray and worship Allah and this influences my behavior today in a negative way because my parents and grandparents forced me to go to the Mosque and when we moved to the United States I stopped going on purpose and now I don’t even know how to pray. Its sad but one positive thing about it is I still know the important prayers like if somebody dies or somebody gets hurt to pray for them and to hope they get better.

How might you benefit from changing your self-concept? I might benefit from changing my self-concept by instead of saying I’m too lazy to pray and to learn today into I’m too tired to pray and learn today because saying I’m lazy is a self assessment that contributes to self concept and if I change that it wouldn’t make my mom so mad because the times I don’t want to learn are the times I am in reality really tired but I end up saying I’m too lazy.




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